As a parent; I have to admit that such a daunting task as raising children will run any stable, sane person through a gambit of emotions… One thing that I must say is that without mine I wouldn’t be the individual that I am today nor would I be able to understand life and what direction will prove beneficial for me to take. All I know is that, neither you or me, asked to be here… That is one thing that we all have in common… the fact that none of us nor any other child asked to be here. It was a decision made without our consultation… which is why I cannot understand how some parents bestow a burden upon their children as being the destroyer of their world…
Stability in adulthood and how that links to a successful bout at child rearing is another topic for another post… one that I surely look forward to tackling in the near future. However; the idea of children in general is one of abundant means, selfish foundations and, strangely, selfless devotion… To truly undertake the glorious yet, at times, seemingly impossible job of raising a child is one that will make or break even the most organized, stable, and sane individual which is why I tried to take my own personal convictions out of the issue and to approach it from a somewhat more ubiquitous angle.
Some understand the complete and utter depth of the task while others take light of it as if it will somehow guide them through unscathed… never the less, one must understand that no child asked to be here so to act or treat that child as a burden that is unwanted is to negate the fact that without your direction, no matter how just or unjust, by way of self guidance that child would not have a place in this world… I believe that my true point is that complaining about something that you willingly brought upon yourself only denotes your weakness in mind, body and soul… To take advantage of the responsibility and structure that comes along with rearing a child is to align said mind, body, and soul in a unified effort to preserve, sustain, and grow. Without the right perspective one could very easily be weighed down by the inevitable cloud of negative energy that will surely follow if responsibility is not fully taken for one’s actions.
I write this with the shear unwavering strength that my children have brought me but also with the humility needed to fully understand that not all people, though physically capable, are completely capable of giving a child the necessary environment needed to nurture and grow in a manner that will promote stability in an effort to further sustain life. I was an individual that, although I truly enjoyed the intrinsic and extrinsic qualities of children, had pretty much resolved to the high personal probability that I would never have any of my own… well I am here to tell you that it is the people in your life that dictate its direction… not so much of who they are and what they want but more like why they are in your life and why you want them there. The mind works to interpret life while the body does its best to contend with the physicality there of… something that we all would do well to remember.
My initial take on children all changed when I found someone that I wanted to have children with… now I know that the insight and experience that I have had bestowed upon me due to their presence in my life is something that I will never be able to saturate nor live up to completely… however; the amount of joy that I get just seeing them smile is something that all parents can relate to… Just remember that smile when they do something that they aren’t told… just remember that feeling that you get when you look into their eyes and see genuine happiness. They will challenge you like nothing else known to man… just remember that they didn’t ask to be here but without them… would you really be living…?